Relationships are hard. Some are more complex than others, but it’s up to strong individuals who want them. Especially once things get intense and you see potential to move further. Some people are more ready than their partner. Which leads to botched proposals. The likes that have been shared on social media often lately.
So it made me ask myself a question. If I was to propose to a woman and she told me “no” would I still even be interested. Of course, the first answer I came up with was “hell nah” you tripping.
But the mature person that I’m becoming made me question things differently. Like, maybe it wouldn’t be bad to understand what I’d need to work on. Especially, if the woman isn’t looking to end it, just wasn’t ready.
So I put up a poll on Twitter and these are the results.
I didn’t expect the results to be as close, but to know that 37% of the people who voted believe that you should stay was shocking. With most responses coming from women, I figured with the answer being no, they’d want nothing to do with the person.
Boy, was I wrong.
I mean, I can see a male’s ego being damaged after a failed proposal. But I do believe a lot of males do offer marriage thinking it will keep a woman. I used to be one of those guys.
Someone else mentioned about how they tried to make it work but it didn’t after a couple months.
Another user mentioned how the signs are there. If someone knew they wanted someone in their life long term they would know prior to the proposal.
Another user mentioned how they would react. You agree?:
So even though across the board it was even. Most comments mentioned how they expected the person to stay but would understand if he decided he’d rather move on.
My advice. Stay ready, but know when it’s the proper time to drop on that knee. It may save you from unwanted disappointment.
But that’s why we talk about it. To educate and learn. Everyone’s different but having a blueprint definitely helps you from making bad decisions.
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